Our church sanctuary is available for weddings. We believe that marriage is a covenantal relationship rooted in the faithfulness of God’s love. Marriage is ordained by God as a sacred order for establishing home and family, nurturing people in love, and fulfilling God’s plan. All couples seeking to enter the covenant of marriage, whether heterosexual or of the same sex, are welcome to do so through our church, subject to the terms of this policy.
As you continue looking forward to your wedding ceremony, please read this entire policy carefully. You should be mindful of these principles.
Wedding Ceremonies at the United Church of Christ in Bayberry
The particulars that have been developed below, in some cases, are very specific. The intent here is not to be restrictive, but to be informative. It is our desire that your wedding ceremony run smoothly. Attention to detail in the planning stages will allow you to concentrate on each other on your wedding day, rather than attending to multiple problems that arise. This is an important day in you lives.
Setting the Date: A wedding date must be confirmed at least three months prior to the intended date. Therefore, in order to allow for time for the church office to check for possible conflicts, please initiate your request at least four months before the wedding date. Please use the form which may be downloaded at the end of this policy.
Wedding Counseling/conferences: The Pastor will schedule a minimum of three appointments with both of you. The purposes of these meetings will be to discuss the fundamental elements of a lasting marriage, cover the details involved in preparing a meaningful wedding ceremony, and to explain the legal requirements for matrimony.
The Music: Traditionally, music is an integral part of a wedding ceremony. Appropriate music enhances the occasion by helping to create a mood of reverence and beauty. A church wedding is a worship service; therefore, not everything is appropriate. For instance, popular love songs or other romantic music that has no sacred content is not suitable for a church service. Such music is best left for the reception following the ceremony. The Pastor and/or the Music Director will aid you in choosing from a great variety of appropriate music. Soloists and other musicians must meet with the Music Director. It is the responsibility of the couple to recruit and pay for musicians other than the church organist.
Timing/Promptness: The church will be opened by the Pastor, Deacon or designated lay person 1 ½ hours before the ceremony is scheduled. Various rooms, offices, and bathrooms can be used as “changing rooms” if needed. It is required that one designated member of the wedding party report to the church personnel at least one hour prior to the service. It is the couple’s responsibility to confirm limousines, flowers, wedding party members, etc., so that the wedding will begin at the scheduled time. This is a courtesy to the Pastor and the guests.
Flowers: Altar flowers, bouquets, corsages, etc. should be delivered to the church at least 1 hour before the ceremony is scheduled (see “Timing/Promptness” above). Please use no tape or tacks on the walls or furniture. The church does not supply any flower stands.
Aisle runners: An on-site aisle runner is not available. If you wish to have one, the florist usually provides it. Our aisle is 45 feet long; a 50-foot runner would be appropriate (allowing for extension into the narthex.)
Candles: The couple supplies the candles and candleholders for the wedding. Possibilities are candles for the altar, a unity candle, etc. The altar candles used during regular worship may also be used during the ceremony.
Smoking: Smoking is absolutely prohibited in our building (including the restrooms).
Food and Beverages: No food or beverages (other than “bottles” for infants) are permitted in the sanctuary.
The Rehearsal: In most cases a wedding rehearsal is desired. Traditionally, it is scheduled for the early evening of the day preceding the wedding. Please arrange the specifics with the Pastor.
Photography/Videotaping: Professionals hired by the couple for this purpose must meet with the Pastor or Deacon about one-half hour before the ceremony. Designated areas in the sanctuary will be described for both photographers and videographers for placement during the ceremony. Flash photography by the guests or professionals is permitted only during the processional and recessional. No photography other than a stationary video camera is allowed during the ceremony. No additional lighting will be permitted for videotaping. Posed pictures may be taken in the sanctuary after the ceremony.
Marriage License: The license must be presented to the Pastor at the rehearsal. If there is not rehearsal, it must be presented to the Pastor at least one hour prior to the wedding ceremony.
Birdseed: This may be used outside to shower the couple. Rice and confetti are prohibited. Bubbles may be used outside only.
Receiving Line: This is traditionally formed in the upper narthex, lower narthex, or outside, often dependent on the size of the wedding party and/or the weather. This will be organized during the ceremony.
Wedding Bulletin: The church will print a bulletin for the ceremony. The contents will be made available to the couple in advance for approval.
Guest Clergy: If the couple desires to have someone other than our pastor officiate at the ceremony, make sure that person contacts our pastor in person (via telephone would suffice) with ample lead-time to make all necessary arrangements, including plans for pre-marital counseling. It is the couple’s responsibility to provide an honorarium (amount undesignated) for the assisting clergyperson.
Reception: If the couple desires to use our “Fellowship Hall” as a site for their reception, they need to use the same guidelines as stated in “Setting the Date” above. Alcoholic beverages at such an event are limited to the toast only. Other than the toast, the consumption of alcoholic beverages is prohibited anywhere on church property (including the parking lot). The church expects that the demeanor of the wedding party and guests be fitting for the setting – a church hall. Please do not disfigure any walls or beams with tacks, etc. when putting up decorations. It is the responsibility of the wedding party to remove all decorations, take down table and chairs, sweep the floor, and clean the kitchen following the reception. The couple must supply all paper products, staples, etc. Note the portions on the attached form dealing with a reception.
After reviewing this policy thoroughly, please download this form, complete and sign it, and return it to the church office.